I had a realization tonight: If it wasn’t for my husband I wouldn’t eat nearly as well. Since I do about 98.4% of the cooking dinner in this house it hasn’t ever occurred to me, but it’s true. Robert is out this evening for some much needed relaxation. I was making dinner for Lola and myself and I found that I didn’t have the energy to turn our simple meal of salmon, baked potatoes and green beans into anything other than basic food. I thought ‘Oh, some chopped green onions and crumbled blue cheese would be good on these potatoes’ and ‘I should make a little sauce for this fish’ and ‘Mmm, some toasted almonds and sauted shallots would taste great on these beans’ but I didn’t do any of it. Lola likes good food, but she also likes simple food, and I wasn’t willing to go to the work just for myself. I am willing, happy, drawn to do it almost every night, because I am in love. I had the sad thought tonight that if, God forbid and knock on wood, I am ever a single parent I will lose all that comes with a partnership, and also my ability to cook in detail oriented way on a Tuesday night. This relationship has taught me to cook more than any class or book ever could because I have the desire to please someone. Thank you Robert, you are powerful motivation.
One Benefit of Marriage
January 21, 2010 by Ivy White
Posted in Stories, Uncategorized | Tagged feeding someone you love, food and love | 5 Comments
Oh so sweet … we all love Robert and we’re all so glad you found him, and he you. What would we do without your dear family? So happy we don’t have to think about that. Welcome back, Ivy!!! Lily will be so happy too!
xoxo
I know just what you mean–my kids would happily eat plain old chicken breasts cut into strips (threaded onto skewers, please), but because I have a husband to cook for, I’ll do those for the kids and then make two chicken breasts for us that are a little more interesting! Plus try to make interesting side dishes. Otherwise it would be steamed broccoli or steamed green beans every night. How dull!
I realized as I read your post that I have felt the same way about cooking, but never put it into words. Thanks for that!
Hi Ivy, so glad you’re back. Please take care of yourself, nothing is so important that you risk your health.
I do very little cooking around here, am thankful Bill and Andrew like to cook a lot. If I was by myself I would nibble all day and miss out on the yummy meals they make. Hope that never happens!
Robert is a fortunate man! (Luckily, so am I!)